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Stop What You’re Doing And Gain More Time To De-stress

If the constant need to prove yourself is exhausting, you are not alone. As much as you try to limit technology, sometimes it is impossible – time is of the essence.

Technology rules a sizable portion of your life– on some small scale, you can’t function without it. We read online, research online communicates, order food online, and so much more. To break this current type of behavior, and you can only do it short-term, you must purposely check out activities for a period. It is essential to free yourself from the technostress that may seep in and work on you in the background.

Unbury Your Head To Have More Personal Time

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It is true you bury your head in the phone, laptop, and any other gadget. And attempting to lessen this type of activity probably feels impossible. Here is the good part, you are not alone. The flow of time waits on one, so do not forget to grab some of that for yourself.

The quickest way to gain more time in your favor is to note the amount of time you spend online. The best app creators collect data regarding the amount of time you spend online.  Some app creators reissue this information to you in analytical stats – take advantage of it and use it in your favor. Look, try to regain as much passive online time as possible and put it toward some form of self-care activity. You will not regret it.

No Guarantees And No Regrets

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No regrets are easier said than done. There is no guarantee that time will work itself out if you do not grab at it.

Making time means shifting it from one place to another. You hear all the time that time waits on no man or woman. Not giving two f*k*s is not the focus here. It is not about caring less what someone else thinks. It is not about knowing you did your own thing on a whim. There is no guarantee that at some point, you will not go through a conscious break. Notably, no regrets mean you had rationally assessed the situation that stands before you and made the best possible outcome for your mental self. You give so much time to the things this modern world throws at you on the mainstream front.

“Go ahead and live with your head held high. No matter how devastated you may be by your own weakness or uselessness, set your heart ablaze. Grit your teeth and look straight ahead. Even if you stop and crouch down, time won’t wait for you or snuggle you and grieve along with you.” – Kyojuro Rengoku, Demon Slayer: Kimetsu no Yaiba

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Remember Who You Are In This World

         Remember who you are because the power to create and destroy pieces of yourself strengthens when you gain or lose sight of yourself. Notably, the world and its constant demands and requests can strip you of your true self. Likewise, remembering who you are is merely embracing who you are. This may be tricky because you are evolving with every experience, every win, and every failure.

         Surely you have heard someone say, “there’s just something about you,” which is the unique feature that makes you, you. Besides, the real magic is never forgetting your value and significance. Moreover, as you grow, your character’s foundation or footing should be unchanging, uncompromising, and unwavering- it’s your more real self.  Also, it’s those treasure trues that you can retreat to when you need the reminder of who you are. Even as you continue to build on that foundation, give yourself permission to be fine with who you are.

You fortify your character and personality’s foundation where it may be weak. What you learn and experience assist with sealing your foundational cracks and splits – therefore, the personal self you create and cultivate ought to fit your life.

What Makes You Different Makes You Who You Are

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         Remember who you are; therefore, don’t let criticism and chaos divert you and confuse your character base. You belong to yourself; you are the highest creature on the food chain and the most valuable creature in your life. Therefore, humble yourself and don’t let anxiety control your decisions or moves. Don’t be easily convinced that you should be the raging stereotypes forced on you through the litany of ads, public service announcements, and videos. Besides, ‘whose you are’ means protecting your core and innermost self from that of the adversary, nemesis, or foe.

You May Have To Fight To Preserve Hallmarks Of Yourself

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         This world’s denizens will try to convince you that absolute change is required to survive. Alan Cohen once wrote, “Every choice before you represent the universe inviting you to remember who you are and what you want.” In 2020 and beyond, it’ll be an no easy task reminding yourself that improvement and growth don’t mean forgetting who you are.

         Unquestionable, some moments invite you to question if this is you and indeed the person you want to become. Some pressures are designed to suit mass appeal prototypes and therefore are indirectly forced. These periods of your life may precede eventful situations and life decisions intended to turn the course of your life. Afterward, how you navigate these currents of life has everything to do with how you managed the choices that set you afloat.

Remember To Crave Your Own Path More Than You Crave Others

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         Caught up as you may be, still not as caught up as you could be. Your path is the path that must matter most if you are to be useful to those who will rely on you. Sara Teasdale once wrote, “You will recognize your own path when you come upon it because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need.”

         You can’t be in service to anything or anyone until you construct the layout of your life. It must be durable enough to withstand you sharing yourself, though you may not have fully mastered yourself. Keeping in mind who you are doesn’t mean that you don’t care about others. It means not relinquishing your character and demeanor’s valuable traits – for something superficial and fleeting that makes you detest yourself. Last, the world is many things and interjects more on you than you realize, at the least know yourself.

“The world is very lovely, and it’s very horrible–and it doesn’t care about your life or mine or anything else.” ― Rudyard Kipling, The Light That Failed

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You’re Growing Into A Better Person, And It’s No Weakness

“The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That’s the day we truly grow up.” ― John C. Maxwell

         Being a better person and allowing your better angel to glisten takes grit and maturity. You demonstrate a sense of self-renewal and reliability when you don’t follow up on others’ foolish larks. The mature person you’ve become is no easy undertaking, but it’s the road you decided to take. There is no fragility in you or about you because you no longer spar with others over petty remarks or evil actions. You’ve learned to walk away and save your battles for another day and a more worthy opponent.

You leisurely walk pass jesters designed to get a rouse out of you. You’re a healthier person, and no weapon formed against you shall prosper. The person you showcase is one having might and not feebleness because your measure is seraphic.

Your Measure As A Better Person Is One to Be Reckon With

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“The only journey is the one within.” ― Rainer Maria Rilke

         Being weighed in the balance or having someone take your measure is not by chance. It’s designed to examine who you are and a scheme of attempting to identify your vulnerability. Also, the moments you decide to mature in managing situations with others and situations over your life, showing that you are not who you use to be, life someone comes along to challenge your improved self. Your growth scares some of the folk of the land (mundane) and maybe even those within your inner circle. Others will also think that you’re not formidable, but you will have measured yourself and know yourself dynamics. The truth is you’re the embodiment of power when you take steps toward self-actualization.

Your Value Is Gilded, And You’re At Peace With You

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“It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself and claims kindred to the great God who made him.” ― Abraham Lincoln

         It’ll always terrify people when they can’t destroy you. Your better angel or magnificent self is to your advantage, and it’s to the disadvantage of others. It’s still a good time for you to resist nonsense and walk the path of peace. You gild and fortify your measure with strides that leave lasting impressions of courage. There is no vulnerability in personal ascension. 

Those Who Love You Will Reinforce Your Acts Of Equanimity

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“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

         There are many roads, many roads on your journey where you will enjoy the company of a friend, family member, supporter, or confidant. Someone who knows you better than you often know your most challenging personality, will revel and rally for your self-confidence and personal growth. Those are the people to keep close in your life. Furthermore, the folk of the land who love you and respect you provides what you need to shore up your civil self. Hence, the better person you aim to be will drown out the negative noise. Those who love you will pour water on the chatter.

         You need not worry what the small folk thinks. Nor should you concern yourself with those who can’t look at themselves earnestly.

Let Us Talk About Talkers Who Rarely Listen To Others

Let us talk about talkers. Yes, those of you who drown out others with self-absorb ramblings.

Listening is essential. And, to talkers that never stop, you miss everything. Consequently, you make it difficult for people to trust that you will hear them out. Not only do friends, family, or colleagues need you to listen, but they need your understanding. You may offer good advice, but you never stop to check and see if it is need. Moreover, you end up draining the other person after the conversation is over.

You truly need to take a vow of silence in the midst of a discussion and just listen up. When you actively engage in listening, you can bring true solutions. Quite often, you do not share your random experiences as genuine viable solutions, but as a means of weaponizing them in order to dominate the conversation. It is rude and often the cause of why people will avoid you.

Let Us Talk About Your Desire To Constantly Be Heard


The same people who rarely listen, are often the ones who must be heard. Your life does not always deserve to be center stage. People in your life are potentially suffering and may need that friend to hear their pressing concerns out. But, if you do not recognize their problems, it is probably because you do not ask.

You do not take that respectful leap to stop and genuinely ask and care about them. You believe that you are the only star that shines in the sky. Maybe, you do not care or you think that you know more than those you surround yourself with. It could be a level of insecurity in yourself, or a simple disrespectful personality.

Why Others Need A Chance To Be Heard


Your desire to overly share or be self-absorb may be your thing. But it is impolite not to know when to power down your tongue and perk up your ears. Do not forget that you learn from others. When people talk their tales and experiences, it is a therapeutic release.

Allowing folk to unburden their woes and when you listens, really listen, it shows you care. Furthermore, people share in order to obtain feedback. Importantly, if you are able to offer a positive response, be honest with them. Even the most introvert person, likes to talk, but only to people they trust and connect with.

It is up to you to be aware when you are dominating a conversation for the sake of nothing more than admiring yourself over the next person.

10 Reasons To Love And Embrace Your Dreadlocks And Tattoos

The process of obtaining dreadlocks and tattoos is no easy fete. Both are breathtaking, sexy, and beautiful in their finished form. They accent your features. In addition, for most people, they tend to carry a personal and sentimental connotation. Therefore, they offer a lasting reminder of a time, place, or space where something magnificent occurred or a tragedy unfolded.

It is a memory, a keepsake for the ages. Because of that, fearless is a good word use to describe those who take either road. Namely, gusty is the word for those who choose both. When you embark on the journey of either, you take off on a road that has been historically traveled by others. Neither are an unusual or infrequent experience in their essence. Novelty only exist in your first experience, from the perspective of locs and tattoos. There is nothing new under this sun, other than your first exposure.


Particularly, sitting through a tattoo session, especially for the first time, you realize pain is part of the process. If you did your research properly, you probably asked questions before the session and was quickly informed this is a byproduct of the act. However, that doesn’t matter to those of you who are committed to the process.

Notably, tattoos offer a means of telling your story of a personal event or keeping a memory alive.   It ‘s your way of sharing a message. One simply does not choose any tat. It’s a process and a mindset preparation that occurs. It’s the same with dreadlocks, for those that’s in it for the long haul.


Dreadlocks come with a rich history. As a result, you must be respect them. If you decide to get them because of the mainstream crazy over them, then you miss the beauty and respect of them. It should be authentic locs or nothing else. The journey to locs require patience and care. It speaks to a natural hair movement.

Truth be told, locs speak to and for the culture and if you decide to start them, you should know it’s no easy task. Notable, you will love them as they ripen. Furthermore, locs and tattoos are a try commitment and some given in before they even mature to tell your story.

Here are 10 reasons to love and embrace your tattoos and dreadlocks.

  1. Your locs and tattoos exist in a space and time when many are being ask to forego their cultural history and practices.
  2. Locs offer a cultural and / or religious connotation.
  3. Your tattoos, consciously thought out, puts in amongst a group of individuals who embraces endurance and story telling.
  4. Tattoos and locs together represents a beauty that improves over time with the proper care and maintenance.
  5. Your tattoos and locs are about self-care and constant dedication.
  6. Tattoos and locs often embellish and offers a uniqueness to your style and features.
  7. Flourish locs allows you to style them with hair jewelry and perform styles that can only accomplish with dreadlocks.
  8. You can enjoy knowing that locs present themselves differently for each person based on hair texture. There are no head of locs that are the same. You are unique in your locs.
  9. Both are simply sexy.
  10. You are a human work of art and aesthetics.

Aspire To Love Yourself Amid Merciless Social Pressures

Be fearless about the love you have for yourself and inspire that love. Protect it from social pressures that come to deceive it. Fearless is different things to different people. Loving yourself, well that also means something different to each of us. Lucille Ball once said, ” “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.” You must be daring when it comes to matters of self. Indeed, protect your sacred space rather physical, mental, or environmental. Equally, receive the respect you deserve and not let anyone manipulate those spaces.

Learn to love yourself without any boundaries and be candid in that love.Jerry Corsten said, “Loving yourself starts with liking yourself, which starts with respecting yourself, which starts with thinking of yourself in positive ways.”

Know Yourself Enough To Be Aware Of Unexpected Merciless Influences


Loving yourself goes together with knowing yourself. Notably, there are movements and messages of empowerment flowing from multiple direction encouraging you to love you. Equally, there are subliminal messages that may make you feel less than a person in your current existence.  Moreover, these activities suggest you should look like this or look like that physically. And, if you do not fit the current mainstream standard, you might see yourself as a mess. You might feel like you do not fit. Truth be told, many of times the current social standards are brutal and hasty.

With an abundance of social activities in your face, the challenge is finding forthright, but smart passion of how you should love and know you. You should never let social media marketing fully persuade your self-discovery. Furthermore, do not let it determine how much you should or should not love and appreciate yourself. Consequently, if you do, your approach to mental, physical, and spiritual style will fluctuate with the latest trends.

On Purpose Selection Is Better Than Unbeknownst Manipulation

In reality, you will more likely gravitated to things if others do the same. For example, you might think that if the masses do it, then it must be proper. For this reason, you should open your eyes and be aware that some social corners market fear of not fitting in. Avoid the manipulation by truly understanding what is pertinent to your existing self. Ask yourself:

  • What do you like, what makes you happy?
  • How does this improve you in the short run and long run?
  • Will this cost me more than I am willing to pay?
  • What will I lose and am I okay with taking the lost?

While, there is nothing wrong with improving yourself, make sure you do it for the right reasons. Significantly, you want to be able to build on any layer you lay on the foundation of oneself. In other words, make it an on purpose selection and a conscious selection. What this means is, the more you love you, the more you know and understand who you are. You will know how to add value to your physical, mental, and spiritual self without social pressures being the dominant factor.

Seek the appropriate influence. You will recognize it when you see it, when you authentically love and know your diverse self.

As a result of loving yourself, this in no form means you should be irresponsible in your acts and attitudes. It means understanding that if you take loving yourself to a point where it is disruptive, disrespectful, and public demeaning your execution requires guidance. There must be a delicate balance between loving yourself while on the journey of self-discovery.

In closing, C.G. Jung once wrote, “until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

Living A Simple Adult Life At Any Adult Age

It’s essential to streamline or simplify your life at any age. Hans Hofmann once wrote, “The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak”. I believe there should be a measure for determining when and how much to do so.

The approach should be one based on where you can get real measures that will lead to valuable results. For instance, a good approach is measuring your life and activities from the beginning to the end of a decade. See where you are and make necessary adjustments before you take on your next 10 years.

In my view, this stems from the fact that you are 10 years older at the end of a decade. This is important because if you set goals, then your life choices probably evolve to ensure you meet said goals. You only get one life and because of that quality of life should always be built in everything you do.

For one thing you might choose to make daily events easier, minimize unimportant odds and ends. Also, eliminate unnecessary tasks that you carry forward from year to year that offer zero value, but only act as time fillers.

Notably, simplistic activities doesn’t mean that you sacrifice on quality or fun. Moreover, it doesn’t suggest that you’re giving up on life. It means that you are clearing your path to get to the things that matter most. It helps you get to the stuff that’s valuable and key in your life.

Make Life Easy Without Eliminating Quality And Embrace Local Offerings

In your 20s and 30s, there is no doubt that you can tolerate more extras than you can in your 40s and 50s. For example, in your 20s you probably spend/spent the weekend travelling 50 miles just to shop, bar hop, attend concerts, or just ride out. If you live within an inner city, don’t discount local grocery stores or butcher shops. Likewise, local bars can be rewarding. Establish yourself as a local and get special treatment. In addition, in my view, specialty shops or stores are unique in their offering. They can offer quality items as well. Shopping local in your neighborhood offers support.

Additionally, there are some other ways to make life easy. If you are a person that have a ton of commitments just to stay involve or networking, you might try narrowing commitments down to the top three. Reduce the overload and unrecognizable stress by scoping in key important activities. Scope out conditions that are just fillers.


On the whole, quality is important as the years pass by. Grade A living is something to strive for. It’s not just what you buy. A degree of excellence means different things to different people. The ability to get from point A to D is about effectiveness and efficiency.

In reality, it should be with minimal difficulty or effort; this includes work, recreation, home living, social aptitude and a host of other life areas. Life is really simple, however you immerse add ins that make it convoluted. You must non-complicate the avenues of your life.

Getting To Trust Is Not An Easy Journey With People You Hope Will Be There Forever

With so much happening in the world and within cultures, it’s often hard to decipher where you should invest your trust. Unquestionably, you must nurture and respect your trust and ensure others do the same. Importantly, don’t ignore your trust, it shows others its valuable to you. Don’t allow anyone to misuse it or mistreat it. Guard your trust and be smart with it, no matter who demands it.

Truthfully, we often give our trust away with ease. Folk must earn your trust. I’m not saying be bitter. However, when you extend your trust, the person should be taking a victory lap to gain it. That means that have put in the work before you extend it. More importantly, if a person gives you their trust easily, then question it; especially if you are new too each other. Clearly, you don’t want to be given anything prematurely and have it rescinded when you make a small mistake.

Only Extend Your Trust Back To The Special Someone When You Are Ready


Above all, trust is a two way device. Indeed the expectation is if someone offers you trust, they will expect an offer back at some point in the immediate future. It’s critical to know that this should not be a deciding factor for you to just fling it away. Be conscious not to offer it up like Sunday dinner and your doing the family a favor.

Determine the right time and circumstances to extend the bridge to your trust. In fact, make them come get it, if they want it. This means you still hold fast to your beliefs. If they are will to do so, then you have attracted them. It should be noted that waiting to long might not sit well with the person. Again, it has to be right for you and not just because a person decides to trust you.

When Trust Becomes An Ultimatum Before It Is Ripe For The Sharing


Ultimatums are exhausting and simply comes with pressures. If you demand trust or the other person is demanding you trust them, this might not be a good thing. It may misfire. Trust as a deal breaker is fine and wanting to get to trust is even better. However, pressure to obtain or give anything to early will not have the best results. Timing is everything. Wait for it, wait for it! There must be a fine balance.

If Trust Is A Deal Breaker For You


If trust is a deal breaker then it is important that you find out if the person is capable of being trustworthy. This is often a delicate area, because with social media and expectations, trust is just hard. Mature individuals, who really connect will be better at gaining trust. Others will struggle with discussing the topic. If you find that wanting to talk about trust makes someone unease, you might not want to ignore that type of response.

Changing the subject and just no clear ability to articulate on the subject of trust is a obvious red flag. Honestly, it’s no magic formula when it come to the right time to trust. There are behavior and character traits to watch closely.

Find a good book on trust, in the area of psychology written by a credible profession for additional suggestions. In essence, do your research. Last, trust your gut.