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Remember Who You Are In This World

Posted on by Melinda Milhouse

         Remember who you are because the power to create and destroy pieces of yourself strengthens when you gain or lose sight of yourself. Notably, the world and its constant demands and requests can strip you of your true self. Likewise, remembering who you are is merely embracing who you are. This may be tricky because you are evolving with every experience, every win, and every failure.

         Surely you have heard someone say, “there’s just something about you,” which is the unique feature that makes you, you. Besides, the real magic is never forgetting your value and significance. Moreover, as you grow, your character’s foundation or footing should be unchanging, uncompromising, and unwavering- it’s your more real self.  Also, it’s those treasure trues that you can retreat to when you need the reminder of who you are. Even as you continue to build on that foundation, give yourself permission to be fine with who you are.

You fortify your character and personality’s foundation where it may be weak. What you learn and experience assist with sealing your foundational cracks and splits – therefore, the personal self you create and cultivate ought to fit your life.

What Makes You Different Makes You Who You Are

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         Remember who you are; therefore, don’t let criticism and chaos divert you and confuse your character base. You belong to yourself; you are the highest creature on the food chain and the most valuable creature in your life. Therefore, humble yourself and don’t let anxiety control your decisions or moves. Don’t be easily convinced that you should be the raging stereotypes forced on you through the litany of ads, public service announcements, and videos. Besides, ‘whose you are’ means protecting your core and innermost self from that of the adversary, nemesis, or foe.

You May Have To Fight To Preserve Hallmarks Of Yourself

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         This world’s denizens will try to convince you that absolute change is required to survive. Alan Cohen once wrote, “Every choice before you represent the universe inviting you to remember who you are and what you want.” In 2020 and beyond, it’ll be an no easy task reminding yourself that improvement and growth don’t mean forgetting who you are.

         Unquestionable, some moments invite you to question if this is you and indeed the person you want to become. Some pressures are designed to suit mass appeal prototypes and therefore are indirectly forced. These periods of your life may precede eventful situations and life decisions intended to turn the course of your life. Afterward, how you navigate these currents of life has everything to do with how you managed the choices that set you afloat.

Remember To Crave Your Own Path More Than You Crave Others

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         Caught up as you may be, still not as caught up as you could be. Your path is the path that must matter most if you are to be useful to those who will rely on you. Sara Teasdale once wrote, “You will recognize your own path when you come upon it because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need.”

         You can’t be in service to anything or anyone until you construct the layout of your life. It must be durable enough to withstand you sharing yourself, though you may not have fully mastered yourself. Keeping in mind who you are doesn’t mean that you don’t care about others. It means not relinquishing your character and demeanor’s valuable traits – for something superficial and fleeting that makes you detest yourself. Last, the world is many things and interjects more on you than you realize, at the least know yourself.

“The world is very lovely, and it’s very horrible–and it doesn’t care about your life or mine or anything else.” ― Rudyard Kipling, The Light That Failed

10 Reasons To Love And Embrace Your Dreadlocks And Tattoos

Posted on by Melinda Milhouse

The process of obtaining dreadlocks and tattoos is no easy fete. Both are breathtaking, sexy, and beautiful in their finished form. They accent your features. In addition, for most people, they tend to carry a personal and sentimental connotation. Therefore, they offer a lasting reminder of a time, place, or space where something magnificent occurred or a tragedy unfolded.

It is a memory, a keepsake for the ages. Because of that, fearless is a good word use to describe those who take either road. Namely, gusty is the word for those who choose both. When you embark on the journey of either, you take off on a road that has been historically traveled by others. Neither are an unusual or infrequent experience in their essence. Novelty only exist in your first experience, from the perspective of locs and tattoos. There is nothing new under this sun, other than your first exposure.

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Particularly, sitting through a tattoo session, especially for the first time, you realize pain is part of the process. If you did your research properly, you probably asked questions before the session and was quickly informed this is a byproduct of the act. However, that doesn’t matter to those of you who are committed to the process.

Notably, tattoos offer a means of telling your story of a personal event or keeping a memory alive.   It ‘s your way of sharing a message. One simply does not choose any tat. It’s a process and a mindset preparation that occurs. It’s the same with dreadlocks, for those that’s in it for the long haul.

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Dreadlocks come with a rich history. As a result, you must be respect them. If you decide to get them because of the mainstream crazy over them, then you miss the beauty and respect of them. It should be authentic locs or nothing else. The journey to locs require patience and care. It speaks to a natural hair movement.

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Truth be told, locs speak to and for the culture and if you decide to start them, you should know it’s no easy task. Notable, you will love them as they ripen. Furthermore, locs and tattoos are a try commitment and some given in before they even mature to tell your story.

Here are 10 reasons to love and embrace your tattoos and dreadlocks.

  1. Your locs and tattoos exist in a space and time when many are being ask to forego their cultural history and practices.
  2. Locs offer a cultural and / or religious connotation.
  3. Your tattoos, consciously thought out, puts in amongst a group of individuals who embraces endurance and story telling.
  4. Tattoos and locs together represents a beauty that improves over time with the proper care and maintenance.
  5. Your tattoos and locs are about self-care and constant dedication.
  6. Tattoos and locs often embellish and offers a uniqueness to your style and features.
  7. Flourish locs allows you to style them with hair jewelry and perform styles that can only accomplish with dreadlocks.
  8. You can enjoy knowing that locs present themselves differently for each person based on hair texture. There are no head of locs that are the same. You are unique in your locs.
  9. Both are simply sexy.
  10. You are a human work of art and aesthetics.

Aspire To Love Yourself Amid Merciless Social Pressures

Posted on by Melinda Milhouse

Be fearless about the love you have for yourself and inspire that love. Protect it from social pressures that come to deceive it. Fearless is different things to different people. Loving yourself, well that also means something different to each of us. Lucille Ball once said, ” “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.” You must be daring when it comes to matters of self. Indeed, protect your sacred space rather physical, mental, or environmental. Equally, receive the respect you deserve and not let anyone manipulate those spaces.

Learn to love yourself without any boundaries and be candid in that love.Jerry Corsten said, “Loving yourself starts with liking yourself, which starts with respecting yourself, which starts with thinking of yourself in positive ways.”

Know Yourself Enough To Be Aware Of Unexpected Merciless Influences

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Loving yourself goes together with knowing yourself. Notably, there are movements and messages of empowerment flowing from multiple direction encouraging you to love you. Equally, there are subliminal messages that may make you feel less than a person in your current existence.  Moreover, these activities suggest you should look like this or look like that physically. And, if you do not fit the current mainstream standard, you might see yourself as a mess. You might feel like you do not fit. Truth be told, many of times the current social standards are brutal and hasty.

With an abundance of social activities in your face, the challenge is finding forthright, but smart passion of how you should love and know you. You should never let social media marketing fully persuade your self-discovery. Furthermore, do not let it determine how much you should or should not love and appreciate yourself. Consequently, if you do, your approach to mental, physical, and spiritual style will fluctuate with the latest trends.

On Purpose Selection Is Better Than Unbeknownst Manipulation

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In reality, you will more likely gravitated to things if others do the same. For example, you might think that if the masses do it, then it must be proper. For this reason, you should open your eyes and be aware that some social corners market fear of not fitting in. Avoid the manipulation by truly understanding what is pertinent to your existing self. Ask yourself:

  • What do you like, what makes you happy?
  • How does this improve you in the short run and long run?
  • Will this cost me more than I am willing to pay?
  • What will I lose and am I okay with taking the lost?

While, there is nothing wrong with improving yourself, make sure you do it for the right reasons. Significantly, you want to be able to build on any layer you lay on the foundation of oneself. In other words, make it an on purpose selection and a conscious selection. What this means is, the more you love you, the more you know and understand who you are. You will know how to add value to your physical, mental, and spiritual self without social pressures being the dominant factor.

Seek the appropriate influence. You will recognize it when you see it, when you authentically love and know your diverse self.

As a result of loving yourself, this in no form means you should be irresponsible in your acts and attitudes. It means understanding that if you take loving yourself to a point where it is disruptive, disrespectful, and public demeaning your execution requires guidance. There must be a delicate balance between loving yourself while on the journey of self-discovery.

In closing, C.G. Jung once wrote, “until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”

Your Journey Is Not Like Others And Their Journey Is Not Yours So Don’t Play Comparison Games

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We have different journeys in life, which will carry us places we never imagine. In addition, you may put in endless effort or work to ensure that parts of your journey to obtain a specific or expect outcome. Your life adventures will unfounded naturally through the people you meet and you will end up being total surprise. Additionally, you will see others on their path, making their strides and wonder why your path looks difference or why you haven’t reach the pinnacles or rewards they have. Their strides may yield fruit differently from your, at a different pace, and time.

The journey is to be respected and nourished, not always forced. It will not be ignored and will not let you insert someone else’s path into your life without a fight. Disrespect it and will give you bearish or ugly results. Stare over or down at your friends path or a family members good fortune and try to re-tune your journey to mimic theirs and it just might back fire.

You Are Design To Be You And Be Inspired By People Around You, Not Take What Is Theirs And Desperately Make It Yours

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If you don’t cheer for you and don’t like you, then you may need to do some soul searching or just searching. You’re designed to come into your own, be inspired by others around you, but find yourself. Discover the type of foods you like and style of cloths. Delight in searching for music that you like or even love.

Friends are there to help you find yourself and support you through the process. Also, they are there to encourage you to love yourself and ascertain what’s at the core of yourself being. Don’t look at their lives and try and fit what works for them and their unique styles into yours. Simply be encouraged. Avoid being bitter or jealous of their lives, and focus on you. Cultivate your life garden. You are extraordinaire, so search for it.

It’s Okay If It Takes Time To Learn Who You Are As You Move Through This Life

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There is no pressure on you, to trek down your perfections or preferences in certain or given time. Although, time is of the essence, but no pressure. The more you rummage around the world and stretch the boundaries of yourself, like a flower, you will unfold to new attractions. Moreover, you will blossom and discover things unimaginable that may delight you. You get to cut your path and be spontaneous in at your own pace. Be curious and safe, but don’t be afraid and let fear keep you from properly moving through life. Question you ambitions and desires, but don’t just give up on them because you think you are too old, but be reasonable with yourself.

If You Find Yourself In State Of Jealousy Because You Are Not Where Your Friends Are In Life, Then Find A Reliable Mentor To Help Sort Through Your Emotions

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Mentors are undervalued. If You Find Yourself In State Of Jealousy Because You Are Not Where Your Friends Are In Life, Then Find A Reliable Mentor To Help Sort Through Your Emotions. Many people think that mentors and life coaches are something you have at work or while in school. You can have a mentor at any point in your life. Professional mentors or a close friend that you trust can be a trusted mentor, who can help you with your discovery process. You’re never too professional, wealth, or old to have a mentor. The way social media is set up today, mentors are everywhere.

Last, find the right one for you that will help you sort through your path and set realistic life goals.