In a world where striving to find your own unique identify and going against the choices of the mainstream wave is often ridiculed, we must fight to find, refine and sustain our uniqueness. E.E Cummings once wrote “to be nobody but yourself, in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight.” The individual human being must value what makes him or her important and different, even in the midst of group pressure and mainstream hype. Being who you are, without being made over, just to fit in with the norm requires full awareness.
Finding the courage and the audacity to be yourself, your own unique self will serve you best. There is nothing selfish, about discovering your own distinct identity and searching for it in order to preserve and sustain it. Self care must be practice and in order to maximize the practice, you must be aware of what you need, to recognize yourself . If you feel like you cannot tell where you end and someone else begins, then your distinctness as an individual is being challenged or slowly drifting away.
You may still be discovering your idiosyncratic self style and thought. There will be cultural and environmental influences which, may sub-consciously drive you. How do you bring those into your full conscious? You have to spend some time with yourself and take feedback from someone you trust who will be objective. You have to want to find yourself and be okay avoiding most of the hype, exist today. It’s not impossible, but it takes work to discovery you and not feel awkward for feel in your skin. Most of the time that awkward feeling is perpetuated by what we think others my think of us. You are always worth any improvements or non-mainstream changes you want to make to yourself, especially of it means getting to you. Go to your daily destiny.