Let us talk about talkers. Yes, those of you who drown out others with self-absorb ramblings.
Listening is essential. And, to talkers that never stop, you miss everything. Consequently, you make it difficult for people to trust that you will hear them out. Not only do friends, family, or colleagues need you to listen, but they need your understanding. You may offer good advice, but you never stop to check and see if it is need. Moreover, you end up draining the other person after the conversation is over.
You truly need to take a vow of silence in the midst of a discussion and just listen up. When you actively engage in listening, you can bring true solutions. Quite often, you do not share your random experiences as genuine viable solutions, but as a means of weaponizing them in order to dominate the conversation. It is rude and often the cause of why people will avoid you.
Let Us Talk About Your Desire To Constantly Be Heard
The same people who rarely listen, are often the ones who must be heard. Your life does not always deserve to be center stage. People in your life are potentially suffering and may need that friend to hear their pressing concerns out. But, if you do not recognize their problems, it is probably because you do not ask.
You do not take that respectful leap to stop and genuinely ask and care about them. You believe that you are the only star that shines in the sky. Maybe, you do not care or you think that you know more than those you surround yourself with. It could be a level of insecurity in yourself, or a simple disrespectful personality.
Why Others Need A Chance To Be Heard
Your desire to overly share or be self-absorb may be your thing. But it is impolite not to know when to power down your tongue and perk up your ears. Do not forget that you learn from others. When people talk their tales and experiences, it is a therapeutic release.
Allowing folk to unburden their woes and when you listens, really listen, it shows you care. Furthermore, people share in order to obtain feedback. Importantly, if you are able to offer a positive response, be honest with them. Even the most introvert person, likes to talk, but only to people they trust and connect with.
It is up to you to be aware when you are dominating a conversation for the sake of nothing more than admiring yourself over the next person.