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Remember Who You Are In This World

Posted on December 30, 2020 by Melinda Milhouse

Remember who you are because the power to create and destroy pieces of yourself strengthens when you gain or lose sight of yourself. Notably, the world and its constant demands and requests can strip you of your true self. Likewise, remembering who you are is merely embracing who you are. This may be tricky because you are evolving with every experience, every win, and every failure.

Surely you have heard someone say, “there’s just something about you,” which is the unique feature that makes you, you. Besides, the real magic is never forgetting your value and significance. Moreover, as you grow, your character’s foundation or footing should be unchanging, uncompromising, and unwavering- it’s your more real self. Also, it’s those treasure trues that you can retreat to when you need the reminder of who you are. Even as you continue to build on that foundation, give yourself permission to be fine with who you are.

You fortify your character and personality’s foundation where it may be weak. What you learn and experience assist with sealing your foundational cracks and splits – therefore, the personal self you create and cultivate ought to fit your life.

What Makes You Different Makes You Who You Are

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Remember who you are; therefore, don’t let criticism and chaos divert you and confuse your character base. You belong to yourself; you are the highest creature on the food chain and the most valuable creature in your life. Therefore, humble yourself and don’t let anxiety control your decisions or moves. Don’t be easily convinced that you should be the raging stereotypes forced on you through the litany of ads, public service announcements, and videos. Besides, ‘whose you are’ means protecting your core and innermost self from that of the adversary, nemesis, or foe.

You May Have To Fight To Preserve Hallmarks Of Yourself

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This world’s denizens will try to convince you that absolute change is required to survive. Alan Cohen once wrote, “Every choice before you represent the universe inviting you to remember who you are and what you want.” In 2020 and beyond, it’ll be an no easy task reminding yourself that improvement and growth don’t mean forgetting who you are.

Unquestionable, some moments invite you to question if this is you and indeed the person you want to become. Some pressures are designed to suit mass appeal prototypes and therefore are indirectly forced. These periods of your life may precede eventful situations and life decisions intended to turn the course of your life. Afterward, how you navigate these currents of life has everything to do with how you managed the choices that set you afloat.

Remember To Crave Your Own Path More Than You Crave Others

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Caught up as you may be, still not as caught up as you could be. Your path is the path that must matter most if you are to be useful to those who will rely on you. Sara Teasdale once wrote, “You will recognize your own path when you come upon it because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need.”

You can’t be in service to anything or anyone until you construct the layout of your life. It must be durable enough to withstand you sharing yourself, though you may not have fully mastered yourself. Keeping in mind who you are doesn’t mean that you don’t care about others. It means not relinquishing your character and demeanor’s valuable traits – for something superficial and fleeting that makes you detest yourself. Last, the world is many things and interjects more on you than you realize, at the least know yourself.

“The world is very lovely, and it’s very horrible–and it doesn’t care about your life or mine or anything else.” ― Rudyard Kipling, The Light That Failed

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You’re Growing Into A Better Person, And It’s No Weakness

Posted on November 27, 2020 by Melinda Milhouse

“The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That’s the day we truly grow up.” ― John C. Maxwell

Being a better person and allowing your better angel to glisten takes grit and maturity. You demonstrate a sense of self-renewal and reliability when you don’t follow up on others’ foolish larks. The mature person you’ve become is no easy undertaking, but it’s the road you decided to take. There is no fragility in you or about you because you no longer spar with others over petty remarks or evil actions. You’ve learned to walk away and save your battles for another day and a more worthy opponent.

You leisurely walk pass jesters designed to get a rouse out of you. You’re a healthier person, and no weapon formed against you shall prosper. The person you showcase is one having might and not feebleness because your measure is seraphic.

Your Measure As A Better Person Is One to Be Reckon With

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“The only journey is the one within.” ― Rainer Maria Rilke

Being weighed in the balance or having someone take your measure is not by chance. It’s designed to examine who you are and a scheme of attempting to identify your vulnerability. Also, the moments you decide to mature in managing situations with others and situations over your life, showing that you are not who you use to be, life someone comes along to challenge your improved self. Your growth scares some of the folk of the land (mundane) and maybe even those within your inner circle. Others will also think that you’re not formidable, but you will have measured yourself and know yourself dynamics. The truth is you’re the embodiment of power when you take steps toward self-actualization.

Your Value Is Gilded, And You’re At Peace With You

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“It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself and claims kindred to the great God who made him.” ― Abraham Lincoln

It’ll always terrify people when they can’t destroy you. Your better angel or magnificent self is to your advantage, and it’s to the disadvantage of others. It’s still a good time for you to resist nonsense and walk the path of peace. You gild and fortify your measure with strides that leave lasting impressions of courage. There is no vulnerability in personal ascension.

Those Who Love You Will Reinforce Your Acts Of Equanimity

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“You always own the option of having no opinion. There is never any need to get worked up or to trouble your soul about things you can’t control. These things are not asking to be judged by you. Leave them alone.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

There are many roads, many roads on your journey where you will enjoy the company of a friend, family member, supporter, or confidant. Someone who knows you better than you often know your most challenging personality, will revel and rally for your self-confidence and personal growth. Those are the people to keep close in your life. Furthermore, the folk of the land who love you and respect you provides what you need to shore up your civil self. Hence, the better person you aim to be will drown out the negative noise. Those who love you will pour water on the chatter.

You need not worry what the small folk thinks. Nor should you concern yourself with those who can’t look at themselves earnestly.

Let Us Talk About Talkers Who Rarely Listen To Others

Posted on July 3, 2020 by Melinda Milhouse

Let us talk about talkers. Yes, those of you who drown out others with self-absorb ramblings.

Listening is essential. And, to talkers that never stop, you miss everything. Consequently, you make it difficult for people to trust that you will hear them out. Not only do friends, family, or colleagues need you to listen, but they need your understanding. You may offer good advice, but you never stop to check and see if it is need. Moreover, you end up draining the other person after the conversation is over.

You truly need to take a vow of silence in the midst of a discussion and just listen up. When you actively engage in listening, you can bring true solutions. Quite often, you do not share your random experiences as genuine viable solutions, but as a means of weaponizing them in order to dominate the conversation. It is rude and often the cause of why people will avoid you.

Let Us Talk About Your Desire To Constantly Be Heard

The same people who rarely listen, are often the ones who must be heard. Your life does not always deserve to be center stage. People in your life are potentially suffering and may need that friend to hear their pressing concerns out. But, if you do not recognize their problems, it is probably because you do not ask.

You do not take that respectful leap to stop and genuinely ask and care about them. You believe that you are the only star that shines in the sky. Maybe, you do not care or you think that you know more than those you surround yourself with. It could be a level of insecurity in yourself, or a simple disrespectful personality.

Why Others Need A Chance To Be Heard

Your desire to overly share or be self-absorb may be your thing. But it is impolite not to know when to power down your tongue and perk up your ears. Do not forget that you learn from others. When people talk their tales and experiences, it is a therapeutic release.

Allowing folk to unburden their woes and when you listens, really listen, it shows you care. Furthermore, people share in order to obtain feedback. Importantly, if you are able to offer a positive response, be honest with them. Even the most introvert person, likes to talk, but only to people they trust and connect with.

It is up to you to be aware when you are dominating a conversation for the sake of nothing more than admiring yourself over the next person.

10 Reasons To Love And Embrace Your Dreadlocks And Tattoos

Posted on March 9, 2020 by Melinda Milhouse

The process of obtaining dreadlocks and tattoos is no easy fete. Both are breathtaking, sexy, and beautiful in their finished form. They accent your features. In addition, for most people, they tend to carry a personal and sentimental connotation. Therefore, they offer a lasting reminder of a time, place, or space where something magnificent occurred or a tragedy unfolded.

It is a memory, a keepsake for the ages. Because of that, fearless is a good word use to describe those who take either road. Namely, gusty is the word for those who choose both. When you embark on the journey of either, you take off on a road that has been historically traveled by others. Neither are an unusual or infrequent experience in their essence. Novelty only exist in your first experience, from the perspective of locs and tattoos. There is nothing new under this sun, other than your first exposure.

Tattoos

Particularly, sitting through a tattoo session, especially for the first time, you realize pain is part of the process. If you did your research properly, you probably asked questions before the session and was quickly informed this is a byproduct of the act. However, that doesn’t matter to those of you who are committed to the process.

Notably, tattoos offer a means of telling your story of a personal event or keeping a memory alive. It ‘s your way of sharing a message. One simply does not choose any tat. It’s a process and a mindset preparation that occurs. It’s the same with dreadlocks, for those that’s in it for the long haul.

Dreadlocks

Dreadlocks come with a rich history. As a result, you must be respect them. If you decide to get them because of the mainstream crazy over them, then you miss the beauty and respect of them. It should be authentic locs or nothing else. The journey to locs require patience and care. It speaks to a natural hair movement.

Truth be told, locs speak to and for the culture and if you decide to start them, you should know it’s no easy task. Notable, you will love them as they ripen. Furthermore, locs and tattoos are a try commitment and some given in before they even mature to tell your story.

Here are 10 reasons to love and embrace your tattoos and dreadlocks.

Your locs and tattoos exist in a space and time when many are being ask to forego their cultural history and practices.
Locs offer a cultural and / or religious connotation.
Your tattoos, consciously thought out, puts in amongst a group of individuals who embraces endurance and story telling.
Tattoos and locs together represents a beauty that improves over time with the proper care and maintenance.
Your tattoos and locs are about self-care and constant dedication.
Tattoos and locs often embellish and offers a uniqueness to your style and features.
Flourish locs allows you to style them with hair jewelry and perform styles that can only accomplish with dreadlocks.
You can enjoy knowing that locs present themselves differently for each person based on hair texture. There are no head of locs that are the same. You are unique in your locs.
Both are simply sexy.
You are a human work of art and aesthetics.