Taking advice from people can be tricky. Informal advice is subjective and should be listen to with a cautionary ear. If you are taking it from family or friends, here is some advice, consider their experience or areas of expertise. Formal advice, well chance are you going to pay for it or it comes from a place to technical expertise or coaching. Whatever way it comes, you must consider where it comes from and the value it will add.
The truth is you may have one or two people that you go to for advice. It is because those individuals have a proven track record of offering quality and reliable advice. You may know it as “sound advice”. They filter out the messy content and offer you the down and dirty without over burdening a situation with meaningless feedback.
It’s Okay To Pass On Feedback That’s Not Relevant To You
More times than few, you will probably opt out of considering general advice or even specific advice. You may take your own advice, which is, take nobody’s advice. MKay!!!! Again, if it is formal advice, chances are they are a respected expert. Then again, you are the judge of what matters to you. Random advice can be messy and may be birth from a place of inexperience.
Trust Your Instinct, You’ll Thank Yourself Later
If something sounds bogus then the information should be fact check. Here is what you should know, people love to talk behind other people. They carry that same information to you, and will do their best to sell it to you as credible data. Don’t believe the hype. There is so much informal information floating around and people talk about everything…they unknowingly and indirectly will try to pass bogus information to you. You are often left to clean up and out the info. It’s smart to trust your instinct.
If Take The Advice, What Do You Plan To Do With It?
You’ve ask and received! The next step is deciding rather to take and use the person’s advice. If everything you received sounds reasonable, relevant, and you’ve check the information for accuracy, then you have to decide how you want to use it. You can decide to use a some of it and save put the unused tidings/words in your vault for later. You may even decide to share it, if it is worth sharing. If you apply it to make a decision, then remember to always give the person the credit they deserve if their advice works. If you decide to use it to make a career decision then remember that you maybe able to help someone later.
You may decide to modify the advice if you find that there is a better way to use it. If the situation is more informal, the suggestive advice may not be as big of a deal to retain. Finally, situations change, therefore the knowledge/information that work today may not apply in the future.
You Have The Right To New Experiences At Any Adult Age, Judgement Free
It is easy to get caught up in repetitive habits that creep in and roll over into a new year. You have probably read the formula for how many days it takes to start a new habit and to break an old one. Did you ever wonder if there is a formula for having a new experience? It is not a formula, but there are steps to ensure you do some planning, and the critical piece is the follow through. Right now you should accept the fact that you deserve to have a new experience or two. Shake up the routine. Invoke rarity and variety into you life.
You might say that you have a family and it is impossible to change up routines. New experiences do not have to big and bold…just new. They can include your children and spouse. It may not be the same as a single person’s experience but the idea is to enrich your normal routine and invoke some bliss.
You can still Carpe-diem. You can try a new food, travel to a new location or take that art class. Take the family vacation cross country to the Grand Canyon, climb that mountain or go on that over due Ski trip you’ve been wanting forever, but too afraid cause hey, you live in a routine. You have permission to break the normal without destroying it.
The Purpose Of Life Is To Experience It, And Savor The Experience
Stop talking yourself out of the activities you want to do. The class you want to take. The trip to Europe or Asia you meant to have taken by now. You have the right to search for your life’s purpose and experiencing life is a part of that purpose. You don’t have to be a personage to enjoy a trip to Paris…everyday people live their best lives. Do not sell yourself short. Start small, plan and execute on the conscious events you want for you or your family. It’s life, swallow it and don’t let it swallow you.
People Will Question Your New Found Attitude
Anytime you decide to do something beneficial or different people will question your motivate. People will question your standards, state of mind, finances and any other area of your life. You are probably familiar with the reason why they do it…to measure who they are against you, to sabotage your endeavors, or even to offer some friendly advice. Do not entertain the naysayers.
You Are Ready, Willing, And Able – Don’t Talk Yourself Out Of This
You are in the land of the living and amongst the living, so go forth and enjoy life. You are ready for the experience so accept the opportunity and find comfort in your planning. Don’t second guess or your decision, chances are you have thought this through many of times and probably set aside what you need to start. Failure is the spice that gives achievement and success their flavor.
Go to your destiny by way of your new experience. Live your best and most adventurous life, judgement free.
If You Have To Say You’re “A Thing”, Then You Maybe Birthing A Fruit That Doesn’t Line Up With What You’re Trying To Sell
I’m all for people having confidence and believing in self. If you like labeling yourself, then go for it. You do it on your social media profiles unbeknownst to you. You are probably living a life of labels even if you try hard not to fall in the norm or popular label categories; you still label. Let’s be clear, no label is a label too. Labeling is somewhat of a sliding scale. You can be at the low end or high end of the labeling sliding scale. What does this mean? You may label yourself all day, do you live up to it? Are you just trying to influence people to look at you according to who you want to be? If you find yourself having to say your something then socially your an unfamiliar or at the low new end of the fruit you are hoping that you bare.
You Maybe Trying To Publicize A Lifestyle To Convince Others Of Who You Would Like “To Be”
There are people, in the age of social media, who work overtime at trying to convince the public that they are a public figure, socialite, artist, business mogul or public speaker, et cetera…but where is the evidence? Yes, you probably go out your way to visually demonstrate or sell, what you hope is a convincing reality. A few pictures or videos here or there might do the trick, you hope. Maybe it is about who you want to be…how is that working out for you? What does it mean to be a socialite or a public figure? How do you ensure that you are maximizing and living up to the figurehead you’ve label yourself? These are all questions you should examine, if your desire is to unpack a certain type of image.
Don’t Break The Bank Or Lose Your Sanity
Your sanity and finances are qualitative and quantitative assets. George Santayana once wrote “Sanity is a madness put to good uses.” and this is why the value of maintaining it is necessary and delicate. How many times do you watch people in videos and in person and their rampage madness overflows as they try to project an image of themselves that’s contrary to their natural self? You can see them struggling to force feed or publicize a socially uncomfortable version of who they are not. You maybe that person too. Breaking the bank and your sane mind to bear fake fruit all to mainstream yourself. Yes, it is great to have fun, but remember to produce the fruit you are aiming for, you have to put in authentic work.
Don’t Damage Your Credibility By Not Living Up To The “You”, You Hyped Up
If you do anything for yourself, labor to produce fruits that honestly depict you to ensure that you always emerge credible. Credibility begets accountability and leads to trust. Protect it! Don’t be a fraudulent version of you. Work toward the fruit you want to bear. A farmer does not plant cabbage and hope it produces eggplants. Neither does that farmer produce the cabbage and try to persuade others that it is an eggplant. Where is the logic or sanity in that behavior? It’s lost or damaged.